Some updates

So I write this from my favourite office location, aka the bathtub. I’ll write as long as I’m not in a prune state. 

I’m sure I’ve mentioned this before but when a woman is in water to birth, be it the sea with dolphins (my preference) or a birthing pool. She won’t shrivel up. It’s the universe god just amazing. 

Let’s go through some big updates from the last post in September 2024.

The Lion was not to be, we can only meet people as far as they can go. I’ve done the work and carry on doing it. He hasn’t. Letting him go and turning the corner has been HARD but I’ve done it now. 

I’ve completed 9 weeks of one to one coaching with lady who is one of the biggest and greatest blessing that I have ever had. She see’s me, guides me, loves me and supports me. Thankfully, she has multiple degrees in behavioural science etc but man does she get people. Coaching for me has been more profound than all my therapy. 

I wish I could tell you all to skip therapy and get a coach. Actually, I would say get good therapy. I think finding a good therapist is easier than finding a good coach but if you luck out like me. OMG! As for therapy, get some EMDR people. 

I also mentioned my dad’s cognitive state.  Sadly, it’s only decreasing and he will be going into assisted living in June. In October, he will be 80. He’s the first person on my mom’s side (I have no contact with his side) to go into assisted living or any sort of supported care. The 3 others in the family who would have benefited all just drank themselves to death. I know I may sound blunt but that is / was the truth. 

He will be going from a pretty enormous 3-bedroom house to a 2-bedroom flat apartment. There will be a guest room for us to visit. Sadly, I don’t think we will. 

I also know how terrible that sounds but it’s the truth. Yesterday I woke up from a nightmare of him yelling and shouting at me. He had / has a vicious temper. He also loves his children (and probably his ex wife) deeply, however he is too wounded to show it. 

Gosh, this makes me think of the time when my mom was in a hospital bed sedated and totally out of it. They were already divorced. He stood at the foot of her bed and sobbed. I have a feeling I’ll share this story at his eulogy one day. 

My job job continues to be very fluid and changeable. I’m doing a 1-month trial in a new role. So far so good. Grateful to have a job, and grateful to be getting ADHD coaching at this time. Only took 4 years but let’s count the wins. 

I have some friends who have jobs in Europe. For years now I have said that I will go visit them and stay at their accommodation. It would just be a weekend trip. Well I kept on waiting for the Lion and other excuses. I emailed the friend last week and they had 4 days left before they were heading home. I have now learned my lesson. No more waiting. Just go and do it. 

So I looked at flights for the city, hotels and food. It creeps up, so I’ve opted for a cruise!

I head off next week and I’ll share more soon

TTYL x

PS. I’m too tired to do a grammar and spelling check now. Will come back to it.