The way it is according to moi

Holy fuckeroo! I wanted to end the month of May with other blog worthy topic but I had a call a few hours ago that I need to write about.  From the last entry you’ll see that my dad was in the A&E with a UTI. Then the following week my sister was rushed to the A&E with a pseudo brain tumor. She had gone for a routine eye test and they saw something. Fast forward blood tests, CT scans, MRI, lumbar puncture, neurological doctors and more optometrists. She will survive! (she has Idiopathic Intracranial Hypertension) She can’t change her gender (let’s not go there), or her age, but she can change her weight and get to a healthy BMI. I have thoughts on that too but she is choosing to take meds with side effects while working on her weight.  Her body, her life, her decisions. She’s been trying to help my dad pack. He moves out of his house of 30 years. I’ve declined flying across the pond. My bro who is 5 hours away has also opted no. So my sister and my father’s ex wif...

This weekend was not easy. On Friday, I had found out that a family friend had passed away at 61. The day was an opportunity to visit the family at a community hall and pay your respects and condolences. It’s almost 3 hours away from me but I knew I wanted to go.  I’ve had a spiritual teacher for many years and prior to having a mortgage, I travelled a lot. I would go to speaking events on the topic of inner peace and there would be all the same familiar faces. This man and his wife were part of the group. Everyone is so happy and joyful, we would often stay in the same hotels, share cabs, meals, smiles, hugs and say see you at the next one.  My faithful blog readers know that I have been through a lot. Even looking at me and smiling is very BIG in my world. We all need to be seen, and this is one of my biggest childhood wounds. (Thank you coach for teaching me and helping me connect the dots). For the 2025 parents out there who are hiding behind their phones when their child ...

So it’s Mother’s Day in North America. Personally it’s a total bullshit day, just the same as father’s day and Valentine’s Day. Do we really need a commercial day to celebrate mothers, father’s, caregivers and love. At the same time, I’m all about celebrating the people that feel like parents to me. I think I tell those people often, they know who they are.  So I would like to dedicate this blog entry to what I think a good mother looks like. I’m picking a celebrity mom that I adore.  The trophy for good parenting and a healthy loving relationship goes to Erin Napier and her husband Ben. HGTV is my favourite TV channel and Home Town is my favourite show which is hosted by Erin and Ben. One day I’m going to go visit Laurel Mississippi where the show is based and I’ll stay at The Heirloom Hotel.  Let’s get back to Erin. Here is an interview with her and her husband Ben. I wait for a love like there’s. Now here is the reason I think she and her friends are rockstar mothers....

So I write this from my favourite office location, aka the bathtub. I’ll write as long as I’m not in a prune state.  I’m sure I’ve mentioned this before but when a woman is in water to birth, be it the sea with dolphins (my preference) or a birthing pool. She won’t shrivel up. It’s the universe god just amazing.  Let’s go through some big updates from the last post in September 2024. The Lion was not to be, we can only meet people as far as they can go. I’ve done the work and carry on doing it. He hasn’t. Letting him go and turning the corner has been HARD but I’ve done it now.  I’ve completed 9 weeks of one to one coaching with lady who is one of the biggest and greatest blessing that I have ever had. She see’s me, guides me, loves me and supports me. Thankfully, she has multiple degrees in behavioural science etc but man does she get people. Coaching for me has been more profound than all my therapy.  I wish I could tell you all to skip therapy and get a coach. Act...